August 19, 2019

How I’m preparing for our second baby | Motherhood Monday

You’ve probably been following my motherhood journey for the last 3 years. If not, here’s an update: I’m pregnant again. I’m due in September and I’m very excited about this because I now know what to expect. I learned a lot going through it the first time and I wanted to share what I’m doing differently (and not so differently) this time around. Please keep in mind that I am trying to have a natural birth with the least amount of medical intervention.

I’m not finding out the gender of the baby… again.

To my surprise, nothing has been a magnet of opinion like the fact that I am not finding the gender of our baby. My reasons are purely based on the fact that it is a huge motivator during labor and in fact did cut my labor time significantly. Not to mention the fact that, while the tech doesn’t confirm or deny what I think, I have a strong intuition on what I’m carrying. I call my baby by his/her name and bond with baby just as much as someone who knows for a fact what their baby is. I’m not completely in the dark as it seems. And I love that! I love the mystery of birth because it parallels my faith. So yeah, you can totally do it. You may not want to and that’s ok, but it’s not hard.

I’m only reading one book.

Last time, I read a few books on pregnancy, including the classic “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”. I found that the most helpful resource was a book recommended to me by my friend Ashley called, “Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth“. It gives you a balanced perspective on childbirth with plenty of stories from other mamas as well as information on what happens to your body during birth. I’m not going to lie, Ina May is a pioneer on Midwifery so a lot of it is very “earthy” and “hippie” because she’s been doing this since the 70’s. However, her insight proved to be invaluable when it came to my first birth. I knew exactly what was going on, despite of my first birth being in the hospital. In my opinion, this book has everything you need to prepare your mind and body for birth.

Chiropractic care

Some of the wisdom I received during my first pregnancy was to explore chiropractic care. Many women swear by this as it lowers the possibility of having a C-section because it helps baby to get (and stay) in an optimal birth position. Having my hip & back adjusted on a regular basis has a positive effect on me. I’m able to move with ease because of it.


Hypnobirthing is a method of pain management during labor. It involves a mix of visualization, deep breathing exercises and relaxation techniques. I didn’t do any kind of method last time, I just embraced it when the time came. I had been interested in hypnobirthing but thought it wasn’t going to work for me until my friend Maria raved about it. This course goes hand in hand with the practical advice from Ina May’s book so it has been a perfect companion.

Less is more

When you do a baby registry for the first time, you are easily overwhelmed by everything that’s out there. And truly, you never know what you’ll need. This time around, I want my house to not look like the baby section at Target so I have minimized what we registered for this baby. We already have the things we really need so now it’s a matter of stocking up on diapers, wipes and baby care items (think body wash, lotion, etc..). We even downsized to a mini crib instead of a full one.

I’m focusing on the healing

I worked through my pregnancy and postpartum recovery with our daughter. I was so focused on bouncing back quickly that I neglected to embrace the weeks of healing. This time around, I’m taking a maternity leave and actually looking forward to doing nothing for the first week except to be with my baby. I’m not going to rush the process. I want to be present and to give myself attention while my body heals.

We are preparing our toddler for the change

And perhaps one of the most important things this time around is helping our toddler transition to becoming a sister. I did not grow up with siblings so this is foreign territory for me but I am optimistic that I will cultivate a friendship and bond between my children that will be inspiring. I’ve heard amazing tips on how to approach the first time they meet as well as how you divide the attention as a parent. But most of all, I know Alana was made to be a sister and she will blossom because of this new addition.

Baby Sign Language is a must

I absolutely enjoyed teaching Alana how to sign. It laid the foundation for communication and I only knew the basics like “eat”, “drink”, “more”, and “changing your diaper”. I would sign whenever I was doing the action after 4 months of age. She started signing back at me at about the 6 month mark. I credit this to the fact that she started talking early and even at 2 years of age, she has a wide range of vocabulary knowledge. I will most likely start signing sooner than 4 months to see if this baby picks it up earlier. I highly encourage mamas out there to try this out! It will make such a difference when your baby knows how to communicate needs before they can talk.

Baby is coming any day now! If you have any advice or suggestions to help us prepared for another baby, leave it in the comment below. Hearing from you makes my day!

  1. says:

    Circumcision is far from natural. Hope you have a girl!

  2. Madelyn says:

    Please research circumcision so you are prepared If the baby is a boy. It is mutilation and goes against God.

    Lots of verses from the New Testament against it:

    For you created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, I know this full well." -Psalm 139:13-14

    "But in fact, God has arranged the parts of the body, every one of them, just as he wants them to be." -1 Cor 12:18

    "Behold, I, Paul, tell you that if you be circumcised, Christ will be of no advantage to you." -Gal 5:2

    "And I testify again to every male who receives circumcision, that hue is in debt to keep the whole Law. You who do so have been severed from Christ…you have fallen from grace." -Gal 5:3

    "For when we place our faith in Christ Jesus, it makes no difference to God whether we are circumcised or not circumcised. What is important is faith expressing itself in love." -Gal 5:6

    "But if I still proclaim circumcision…then the stumbling block of the cross has been abolished." -Gal 5:11

    "I wish that those who are pushing you to do so would mutilate themselves!" -Gal 5:12

    "And even those who advocate circumcision don’t really keep the whole law. They only want you to be circumcised so they can brag about it and claim you as their disciples." -Gal 6:13

    "For neither circumcision nor uncircumcision matters. Rather, what matters is being a new creation." -Gal 6:15

    "For there are many who rebel against right teaching; they engage in useless talk and deceive people. This is especially true of those who insist on circumcision for salvation. They must be silenced. By their wrong teaching, they have already turned whole families away from the truth. Such teachers only want your money" – Titus 1:10-11

    "Watch out for those wicked men – dangerous dogs, I call them – who say you must be circumcised. Beware of the evil doers. Beware of the mutilation. For it isn’t the cutting of our bodies that makes us children of God; it is worshiping him with our spirits." – Phil 3:2-3

    "But each of you should remain in the place in life that the Lord has given you. Stay as you were when God chose you. Was a man already circumcised [Old Covenant] when God chose him? Then he should not become uncircumcised. Was he uncircumcised [New Covenant] when God chose him? Then he should not be circumcised. Being circumcised means nothing. Being uncircumcised means nothing. Doing what God commands is what counts." -1 Cor. 7:17-19

    "Certain people came down from Judea to Antioch and were teaching, saying, ‘Moses commanded you to be circumcised. If you aren’t, you can’t be saved.’ But Paul and Barnabas didn’t agree with this, argued strongly with them, and were appointed to go up to Jerusalem with other believers chosen to go with them. The apostles and elders met together to consider this question. […] Peter got up and spoke to them, ‘Brothers, you know that some time ago God chose me to take the good news to unbelievers. He wanted them to hear the good news and believe. God knows the human heart. […] Now then, why are you trying to test God? You test him when you put a heavy load on the believers’ shoulders [regarding circumcision]. Our people of long ago couldn’t carry that load. We can’t either." -Acts 15:1-2, 6-10

    "Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly." -1 Tim 4:7